By Mary Sherwood Sevinsky
When you have been injured at work it effects not only your life, but your loved ones', friends' and employer's. Not only do you not know what to do or where to turn but chances are good that those around you don't either.
You are most likely a hard worker who wants nothing but to get back to work. You may have been in the same job for a long time. You may fear or have already been told that you may not be able to return to work in the same position. Ever. What can you do? What should you do?
Fear is often at the core of most unexpected change and an unexpected work injury is no different. During the initial phases of an injury medical treatment and your job security may be unclear. The more you can do to clarify your situation, the better you can plan your next steps.
So, what should you do if you have been injured at work?
- Stay in constant communication with your employer - it is important that they understand that you want to come back to work as quickly as possible and where you are in your medical treatment.
- Arrange all documents you receive in a folder in chronological order.
- Keep a journal of all conversations and events - include dates, times, location, mileage, a summary of what was said or done.
- Ask questions and take notes of the answers - write the questions or concerns down as they come to you; you won't remember them at your next doctor or employer meeting.
- Take stock of the resources you do have - including your support system; make a list of resources you may still need.
- Understand your state's Workers' Compensation Laws.
- Do you need an attorney? A good attorney can help in almost any circumstance and most do not charge for an initial consult - in most jurisdictions attorneys are paid on contingency or from the funds that they are able to get for you.
Another emotion that often enters into the picture when someone is injured at work is grief. Grief over the loss of:
- Physical function - often it is the employee who performs manual labor of some sort that experiences an injury; physical function equates livelihood and self-sufficiency.
- Job - in our culture we frequently identify who we are by what we do; when faced with a job loss, it is common to mourn the loss of identity.
- Routine - Adults structure their entire lives around our work schedule and can experience a profound sense of loss of security; An injured worker is often left to fill full days alone with nothing to focus on but pain, fear, and/or grief.
If an injury is severe both feelings of fear and grief may be especially strong. Men often express these emotions in the form of anger as they are often unused to discussing emotions. The resultant relationship issues are, needless to say, not beneficial to the recuperation or return to work process.
Acknowledging and labeling these feelings goes along way toward being able to discuss and work through them. What else can you do? Grief often progresses through stages - not always in the same way, order, or time frames. However, you may find the following helpful.
COPING WITH JOB LOSS
1.
SHOCK & DENIAL-
In this
stage you will feel generally numb – this serves as a coping mechanism to
protect you from what may be potentially overwhelming. If you recently have
lost your job you may be unable to think about how you feel about that, what
you will do, and so forth. This stage keeps you moving forward physically and
ensures you will meet all your basic needs.
What you can
do: You should take this opportunity to
breathe. Literally. Keep a notebook with you during this and
following stages and right EVERYTHING down. The smallest thought and
feelings, when they come. Let yourself be emotional and
feel. The worst thing you can do is to block yourself off from your
emotions. To refocus: Keep a separate section for any ides that
come to mind – you will find comfort in these as you progress through the
various stages.
2. PAIN & GUILT-
Pain and
heart-break are laced with guilt in this stage. You may relate it to a lost
love from which you suffer and know it must be that you are not worthy or must
have deserved it.
What you can
do: Accept comfort and seek out others who care about you and/or who have had
similar experiences or are currently working through this process
themselves. To refocus: Think about when you have
experienced similar feelings – what helped? What
didn’t? Repeat those things or techniques that are tried and true.
3. ANGER & BARGAINING-
Anger is
normal. You may reach this stage pretty quickly after a job loss, whether
through lay-off, illness, injury or takeover. Accept this, express it, but be
mindful how you do so – you may need the help of those closest to you most
during the next days, weeks, and/or months.
What you can
do: Anger is normal. Scream into a pillow or an empty field (if you
have one available). Jump up and down and throw a
tantrum. Sometimes you just need to physically express your anger to
get through it. If you are a religious person, you might plead with
your higher power at this point, promising anything from a new and improved you
to all the money you will ever earn if you can just get a new
job. To refocus: Continue to write in your notebook (call
it a journal if you want!). Ask yourself what you are angry
about. Return to the section of your notebook in which you wrote any
ideas you might have for your Return To Work.
4. "DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS-
It is
important for you to “feel” how you feel – you are likely to feel depressed and
lonely. You are cut off from your normal social support, however helpful it
was. The bottom line is that just the act of getting up and dressed and out to
work every day and interacting with others gives you some social and emotional
support that is seriously felt to be missing at this point.
You should allow these feelings, recognize them and think about what you need
going forward.
What you can
do: It is important for you to “feel” how you feel – you are likely to feel
depressed and lonely. If that is the case, take this time to be alone and
think about your current situation. If you feel too lonely seek out
others who you respect and/or have a positive, supportive nature. To refocus:
Take stock of your assets (literally and figuratively). These may
include your skills and abilities as well as your financial assets.
5. THE UPWARD TURN-
Eventually
you will attain a rhythm in your job search and networking and will feel some
sort of calm and organization. You may flash back occasionally to feelings of
guilt when you realize this. Understand that this is the first step in moving
beyond your grief from the loss of your job and that it is entirely NORMAL.
What you can
do: Have a goal, complete with time
frame, and steps that you can take toward that goal. Make your goal
more specific and meaningful than “Get a job.” For example,
will you settle for any job right now and then move on to find a better
one? Or, do you have the resources to spend X number of months to
search for a job at a given level? To refocus: Write down
your goal and when you want to achieve it (it can be modified if necessary),
develop a schedule (also in writing) that will allow you to reach your
goal. Review your schedule and goal daily.
6.
RECONSTRUCTION &
WORKING THROUGH-
As you begin
the upward turn, you will eventually be able to think about where you want to
be and what type of job you might like to have. For many this is the first time
they have had the opportunity to consider what type of job they might like to
do and/or what they ENJOY. Many note that the lay-off, downsizing, job change
was the best thing that could have happened because it forced them to look at
what is out there relative to what they had to offer.
What you can
do: Keep writing in your notebook
and re-evaluate your progress and which goals you want to keep on at least a
weekly basis. What is working? What is not getting you the
interviews you need to get hired? Try to use a critical eye, if this is
difficult, seek the help of an expert or a mentor.
7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE-
Eventually,
you will be able to accept that you may not be the same exact person you were
before your “loss”, but somehow you are the best you can be and you have made
the most of what life has to offer. You are able to move forward, seeking and
finding other employment opportunities. It isn’t easy, but it is possible, even
if it doesn’t seem so right now.
What you can do: You will gain confidence and hope from your
activity. Stay organized and act on every lead as soon as possible
without being overly hasty. Note
anything positive that happens during the day, whether or not it is job search
related. Make your plan for the next day
so that you have something to look forward to.
Mary is a Masters-prepared Career Counselor with over 18 years experience in resume writing, personal branding, career assessment and counseling. Specializing in non-traditional specialized careers and career-transitioning, she has the ability to synthesize and focus your unique skills and abilities to obtain interviews for the positions you want with the employers you want to notice you. Follow her on Twitter at @MarySevinsky.
